You Are Not Your Emotions, you are just experiencing them.
According to Harvard Neuroscientist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor, when we are triggered by a threatening external stimulus or in fact any ‘event’ that emotionally triggers us, “there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.
When we are processing difficult emotions – the neuro-chemical charge only lasts 90 seconds, and after that we start interpreting, clinging onto and shaping that emotional spark. The latter is highly influenced by our memories, past experiences and beliefs. We are NOT our emotions, we are experiencing our emotions.
In other words, our emotions don’t define us:
* We are not an angry person, we are feeling anger.
* We are not a sad person, we have just been feeling sad lately.
* We are not a jealous person, we are just feeling jealous right now.
We are not a failure, we are experiencing a failure ‘issue/ event’ in our life right now. When we become consumed in the world of thought, feeling and action, we begin to ‘cling’ to our emotional ‘charge’. As we continue to feed it more energy, we lose ourselves in this ‘constructed’ reality.
Here’s another way of handling this. If you are, for example, feeling anxious or overwhelmed... rather than treating this as a problem to be solved… try treating your emotions lightly, observing them and naming them. The trick is to remember that these ‘emotional charges’ can ‘pass through you’ in 90 seconds! Even when you are dealing with kids, ask them, ‘Do you want a solution to this problem you’re crying about, or do you just want to let this feeling pass through you?’
Remember : You Are Not Your Emotions, you are just experiencing them.